She is currently a transformational speaker and mentor to businesses, individuals, coaches, leaders, groups and organizations. She helps them uncover their natural well-being and happiness so that they can operate from a clearer state of mind and take their lives and businesses to a higher level.
Jill has many "viral" articles on LinkedIn and is a contributing writer for P. I Love You. Stay abreast of Jill's latest musings and offerings by subscribing to her newsletter here. Email Address:. A blog about healthy living! Jill Whalen's healthy lifestyle transformation. Changing From Shy to Outgoing 0. As I was watching how people interacted, I noticed a few different personality types: Those who were outgoing.
Those who were quiet and mostly stuck to themselves. Those who were quiet but still open to interaction with others. Confidence often comes through repetition. Just like learning to ride a bike was terrifying at first, over time you just stopped falling down. You became less afraid of getting on the bike and therefore road the bike more, only enhancing your bike riding skills. Here is a real-world example. A client reported she used to be painfully shy.
However, since taking a job as a flight attendant two years ago, she now experiences new levels of social confidence and manifests being outgoing in her own unique way. Through repeated exposure, her fears began to melt away. She began to see that she actually was quite socially capable and has even grown her current skills. She has harnessed her ability to read others and thus feels the outcomes of her social experiences are more fruitful.
She even frequently gets asked on out dates by passengers in her cabin. How can you enhance your natural ability to be outgoing in a way that is authentic to you and not in a way that makes you feel bad? Read this next: 6 Steps to Becoming More Outgoing.
Amy Leo is creator of our 30 Days of Love Course. She is a fellow human being doing the best she can. She is a three principles paradigm coach, singer-songwriter, and travel addict. With a background in social work and mental health education, she is passionate about alleviating human psychological suffering and travels the world sharing a simple, profound, and scientific truth of how our human minds can work for us, instead of against us Wow, fantastic blog layout!
How long have you been blogging for? The overall look of your web site is excellent, as well as the content! I was suggested this website by my cousin. You are incredible! Its like you read my mind! You appear to know so much about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. But the opposite is also true. It all depends on you. We live in an extroverted-normative society. Whoever doesn't fit in the "alpha" guy is considered of less value. For many years, I tried to emulate how my sister is she's really outgoing and extroverted.
It was hell, because I had to force myself way too much and I was inauthentic. I had never thought about that earlier, but in my case my social phobia was caused by my untreated depression.
If you define shyness and insecurity and inexperience as part of your personality, then yes, you can change that. But there will always be an deeper, more fundamental personality which you cannot change. But that personality is not inherently shy.
Don't worry about these philosophical issues. Simply go get massive experience socializing and that will fix many of your problems until your question melts away. I used to be extremely shy and socially insecure, to the point of not being able to have a conversation with a taxi driver or hair stylist or grocery store clerk. All things are possible for one who believes. Posted October 11, edited. You can change but it takes alot of work. Ive done tons of therapy, questioning of false beliefs and even shadow work.
You have to want it so bad! Im so tired of being my "old" ego that it feels like old snakeskin that doesnt fit me anymore. Yes I have tried that but it end up like kind of downward spiral for me. Usually after a little while they will make excuses to walk away. This kind of negative feedback will just add to my insecurity. Now I feel even less confident than before.
I can force myself to keep going to social situations, but chances are I will get same type of negative feedback. How would that help me to improve? Seem like reinforcing the reason why I feel insecure about myself Don't add fuel to the fire by citing all the reasons why you are stuck and I direct lyrische building a story where you are a mess. Focus on active detachment through daily meditation min 20 minutes , journaling and spiritual practice watch last two Leo's videos and start gradually taking action and to enlarge your comfort zone.
Eventually I did get proper treatment and I'm all normal now. But apart from the mental illness factor, for people in general, those that have higher testosterone are more confident and outgoing.
And sometimes it could just come down to the need for certain important nutrient. Like the body need Zinc to form testosterone. So if you get sufficient Zinc from the diet then your body will produce more testosterone and then you might just feel better about yourself and have more confidence and motivation etc. What is true holy?
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